I am a former White Collar Wife writing about my experience of recovery.

My photo

     I began blogging on the subject of white collar wives after experiencing the devastating consequences of my, (former), husband's financial crime.  My goal was to reach other women who are suffering or have suffered as I did so that they wouldn't have to walk this dark and uncertain path alone. The blog also serves to educate the public regarding the stigma wives and families face as a result of guilt by association.  The truth is that wives and children are the FIRST victims of many white collar crimes as a result of the acute breach of trust and ensuing financial ruin that is brought upon them by a man whose primary obligation is to protect his family.  As a result of the positive response to my blog essays I created a private on-line support group, The Secret Lives of White Collar Wives.  The purpose of the group is to provide a safe and private place of acceptance and empowerment. Our community continues to grow both nationally as well as internationally.  Please contact me at lawlerlisa1@gmail.com for a private screening into the group. (A request made directly to the group page will not be accepted). 

     In addition to my advocacy work on behalf of white collar wives and families I have developed a lecture on ethics in the workplace. I urge all who are serious about compliance and risk to contact me for a compelling hour of "Truth and Consequences: Easy Money Isn't Easy" from a new voice with a new perspective on enforcement. Humans are vulnerable to many temptations and too often fail to consider the dire consequences one bad decision can have on their and their families lives. 


Sunday, March 27, 2016


     Spring brings with it the promise of the end of the dark, cold days of winter and the assurance for brighter and warmer days ahead.  Many white collar wives and families live far too long in the relentless grips of a never ending harsh winter that brings with it insurmountable struggles and suffering.  This  climate makes it difficult and at times, seemingly futile to continue to try to keep up with the harsh elements that require all of our energy and threatens to blow our houses down.  But Spring is here and brings with it the warmth of the sun and rains that will wash away all signs of the muddied,  cold ice and grit in the aftermath of a long winter season.  We can bask in the warmth of the sun that will provide sustenance for new growth and even the possibility of a garden. The longer, warmer days ahead will allow us time to recharge, rebirth and recommit to growing into the light. We can learn from the young roots that are pressing through the hard ground now after surviving a seemingly unsurvivable environment that no matter how long, how cold or how devastating a winter they had to endure they will indeed announce their arrival and take up their rightful space and share their strength and beauty with us. They will absorb and store all of the life sustaining nutrients they need in the months to come so that when they fall and fade and disappear back into the harshness of winter they can come back to us in their full essence once again next Spring. 

    I wish you all a Springtime of taking in all the beauty and promise of rebirth that this season affords. Winter will certainly come again so take in all of the light, warmth and color you can to recharge for the darker days ahead. So go ahead, get out in it, take up your space and bloom!!

Happy Spring!!!!